The best productivity tools involve mind games.
I love mind games
And I love to be productive, organized and clear about my boundaries.
I’m sure you do, too.
But what happens when life gets in the way, as it inevitably does?
~Do you forge ahead despite the distractions?
~Do you wallow in nothingness and overwhelm?
~Do you give in and let anxiety control your body and mind?
If the latter describes you, I have two solutions.
The first involves reading the following four calmness hacks. I guarantee you’ll learn a few anxiety-relief tips and tricks to get you on the other side of stressed out.
Anxiety-Hack #1: Remember That Calm is An Inside Job
If you’ve ever suffered panic attacks, you know how scary the experience can be. Maybe you thought you were having a heart attack, or worse — felt like you were knocking on death’s door.
That’s your mind-body connection playing tricks on you.
Back in the cave dwellers day, we had to hunt for food. We were chased by wild animals and faced death at any given moment. The fight-flight response was activated during times of stress, and your brain sent signals to your body preparing you for an adrenaline-surged run for your life, or it screamed “Fight back!!”
The modern day problem is that our minds haven’t changed with the times. The vast majority of us do not encounter life-or-death situations, but our brain doesn’t know this.
So how do you exorcise your inner-cave dweller?
Breathe slowly and deeply. Be aware of your breath when you’re stressed. Practice deep-breathing exercises like the 4-4-4 to train yourself to get in touch with your body:
Inhale for a count of four. Hold for a count of four. Exhale for a count of four.
Remember to practice when you’re calm, too. This way you’ll train your brain to use breathing as a relaxation tool throughout the day.
Anxiety-Hack #2: Live in the Present + Practice Positive Psychology
Anxious people have a tendency to live in the future. And often this future is a place of gloom and doom. Depressed people tend to live in the past. Spending hours, days, months, and even years rewriting, reliving their childhoods, and ultimately trying to recreate those memories and life events.
If you want to feel more calm, confident and in control you must be BFF with the present. It’s the only time we actually “own.”
Mindfulness, meditation, breathing exercises, and visualization tools are wonderful for getting us grounded in reality and leaving the past and future alone.
Here’s a free visualization exercise to get you started.
Positive psychology is one of my favorite practices because the focus is on the good things we do, rather than what we’re not doing right. It’s super helpful for changing our negative thinking patterns, too.
Check out this popular post: 20 Quick Positive Psychology Actions You Can Do Today.
Anxiety-Hack #3: Tackle Anxiety’s Hidden Emotion
Do you know what this emotion is?
Take a guess. I’ll wait…
Anxiety’s Hidden Emotion Is:
d) None of the above
If you guessed d), give yourself a pat on the back.
The main emotion underlying anxiety is not what you’d expect. After all, anxious people are often nice. And successful. And kind.
However, there’s a price for being the go-to guy when a buddy needs help moving, or the gal who does for everyone else but herself. And for taking on too many responsibilities. And for being on time. And for over-achieving.
And that price my friends, comes courtesy of anger.
Let me guess — you either swallow it while continuing to say ‘yes’ — or hold it in until you explode in emotional outbursts.
I’ve totally been there.
The key is learning to express it appropriately at the right time, in the right amount, and to the right people.
No easy feat, but with regular practice you’ll learn that anger is normal. It doesn’t make you mean. And expressing anger appropriately is healthy.
Besides changing negative thinking, anger management is what most therapy clients need help with. What the majority of us need assistance with, really.
And some days will be better than others, and that’s okay. The key is to manage your anger so it doesn’t manage you. Even if it’s repressed. And especially if you’re shaking your head right now…
Anxiety-Hack #4: Build Your Boundaries
I love this one! Healthy boundaries are the key to happiness. And man — you nail this one, and you’re looking at one emotionally healthy year ahead!
What are boundaries?
Think of invisible lines around yourself which define who and what you feel comfortable with. Anything outside the lines means your boundaries are crossed. And that’s not good.
There’s many types of boundaries: Physical, emotional, mental, sexual, financial, dietary, substances, moral, etc. How we approach boundaries makes all the difference in our moods.
Wanna tighten your boundaries?
Check out this tutorial about everything you need to know about setting and establishing good, solid, healthy boundaries. It’s part of this awesome product, and I’m offering a free sample.
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Remember I said I had another tip?
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Yours in calm, confident, and in control,